Be yourself

We camouflage our true being before others to protect against criticism or rejection. This protection comes at a steep price. When we are not truly known by the other people in our lives, we are misunderstood. When we are misunderstood, especially by family and friends, we join the 'lonely crowd.' Worse, when we succeed in hiding our being from others, we lose touch with our real selves. This loss of self contributes to illness in its myriad forms.
   
Sidney Jourard

Could it be more complicated?

The course of our life is determined by an array of selves that live within each of us. These selves call out to us constantly - in our dreams and fantasies, in our moods and maladies and in a multitude of unpredictable and inexplicable reactions to the world around us”

Hal Stone & Sidra Winkelman